How to Stay Safe When Having Anal Sex After 50

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Should you be having anal sex after 50?

There's no age limit on sex.

As you grow older you don't stop, nor should you feel like you should stop, fornicating with your partner. The same goes for anal sex.

Anal intercourse can be enjoyed at any age, so long as you're following all the necessary precautions.

To discover how to stay safe when having anal sex after 50, we spoke with women's health expert and the host of the In the Ladies' Room With Dr. Donnica podcast, Dr. Donnica Moore.

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Women.com: Can you have anal sex after 50?

Dr. Donnica: After 18, anal sex has no age limits. There’s no such thing as 'should' when it comes to sexual preferences, so long as you’re practicing safe sex, with consent of all parties involved.

WDC: What are the biggest risks of having anal sex after 50?

DD: The anus isn’t 'designed' for sex. It’s not self-lubricating, the way the vagina is. Therefore, if you’re going to have anal sex, lubricant is essential. Small tears in the rectal lining may lead to infection or bleeding (especially since those over 50 are much more likely to have hemorrhoids).

But the bigger risk is if you switch from anal to vaginal intercourse in the same session (with a partner or a sex toy). If you’re using a condom, be sure to remove it after anal sex/before vaginal sex. If not, be sure to wash the penis/fingers/sex toy after any anal contact before vaginal contact. While this is true for women of all ages, after menopause, the vaginal lining thins and you’re much more likely to get a vaginal infection as a result of rectal bacteria.

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WDC: What are the best positions for anal sex after 50?

DD: Preferred positions are really a matter of personal choice rather than age, depending on what orthopedic ailments you may have acquired by this age.

Hip, spinal, and knee problems may provide positional limitations. Be creative with positioning pillows or using firm supports like 'the ramp' or wedge supports designed for sex play.

WDC: What types of lube are best for anal sex after 50?

DD: There are a wide variety of lubricants to choose from; your choice will be guided by personal preference and whether or not you are using a condom. If you’re using a latex condom, be sure to choose a product that won’t cause a breakdown of the latex, such as a high-quality silicone based lubricant.

Silicone lube is one of the best lubes for anal because it contains dimethicone, dimethiconol, and cyclomethicone. This creates a consistency that is thicker and more sticky than water-based lubes.

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WDC: Is there a right way to ask your partner if they'd want to try anal sex?

DD: As with most issues related to sex and relationships, it all depends on everything. Communication that’s open and honest is great for any relationship. Usually, keeping it simple, considerate, and straightforward works best. 'I was wondering...' is a great opener.

WDC: What are misconceptions people over 50 have about sex?

DD: Probably the biggest misconception that people over 50 have about sex is that you’re 'finished after 50' (especially for women). Nothing could be further from the truth. There are often medical challenges however: Most notably, erectile dysfunction in men and vulvovaginal atrophy (VVA or vaginal dryness) causing pain with sex in women. The good news is that both of those conditions are treatable. If you have any concerns about medical problems which may be interfering with your sex life, I highly recommend talking with your healthcare provider about them.

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