A Thorough Guide on Role-Play for Married Couples

Rachel dressed up as Princess Leia to role play with Ross on an episode of Friends
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After reading this guide, you'll be role-playing like a pro.

A Guide to Role-Play for Married Couples

After being with the same person for years and years, sex tends to feel pretty monotonous.

You do it in the same positions, in the same spot, at the same time every night, if even that. Sometimes it's only once every two weeks, or worse, once a month.

Don't get us wrong, sex definitely gets better with age, but sometimes you need a little something more than banging it out in missionary to get off.

You came here because you want to break this boring cycle and spice up your sex life once again. You're wondering if role-play could be the thing your intimate moments with your spouse have been missing, and we're here to help you make that decision.

We've created a handy-dandy guide all married couples should reference when they're ready to try out role play. Keep scrolling for everything from tips and tricks to role-play ideas!

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Role-Play Definition

To get all technical on you for one second, Collins English Dictionary defines role-play as:

"The act of imitating the character and behavior of someone who is different from yourself, for example as a training exercise"

In even simpler terms, Merriam-Webster defines it as:

"To act out the role of"

While role-play has a relatively similar definition in every dictionary out there, it's sort of what you make of it. Yes, it's all about playing out some sort of act in the bedroom, but there really is no right or wrong way to do it.

Role-Play for Married Couples Tips

So how do you make role-play? As we said, there's no real right or wrong way to do it, but there are a few things you should know before partaking in the sexual excursion.

Below are five tips on how to make role-play a little less awkward your first time around.

1. Talk to Your Spouse

Before you even initiate role-play in the bedroom, you need to have a chat about it with your spouse. This way you're both on the same page and can act out a fantasy that suits both of your wildest dreams. Not to mention, you don't want to just spring role-play on them, because that could make them uncomfortable and the sex wouldn't be as thrilling as you had hoped. Communication is key in every aspect of a relationship, including sex.

2. Come Up With Ideas Together

Role-play is meant to benefit both partners, so try to come up with an idea that will get each of you aroused and ready to get down. We listed some ideas below, but feel free to do a little extra research to find something more specific to your deepest, darkest desires.

3. Start off Small

Role-playing doesn't need to be a grand spectacle you and your partner partake in. You can start out with doing some smaller, simpler things to get each other going. This could be wearing lingerie or trying out a sex toy. Heck, the two of you could even test out some accents, if that's what tickles your fancy.

4. Give It Time

The role-playing scenario you picked out might not work right off the bat, but that's totally fine. You have to give you and your partner a little time before you decide to call it quits and never speak of the time you dressed up like a rubber doll ever again. It's going to be uncomfortable in the beginning, but sticking with it for at least 15 minutes will help you get into the zone.

5. Just Go for It

Role-play is what you make of it, so have fun. Though it can feel a bit awkward and intimidating at first, try not to put too much pressure on the situation. It's just sex, after all. If things really get weird or uncomfortable, embrace it. Start laughing or tell your partner that this isn't want you wanted. Just don't hold back. If you're really going to go for it, go for it.

Role-Play for Married Couples Ideas

Who would we be if we didn't give you a few ideas for role-play?

We rounded up a few more go-to scenarios, so if none of these sound appealing, do a little more research. We can't read your mind, so we don't know your kinks.

If you're looking for more common role-play ideas for married couples, the ones below will work great for you.

Cheerleader and Football Player

This is probably one of the most well-known role-play situations, but hey, it works. The great thing about these roles is that they don't really take a lot to get into. You're not playing a porn star, just an athlete. And we've all been an athlete at least some point in our lives. Yes, little league counts.

Professor and Student

Another common situation, the professor-student dynamic tends to get a lot of couples off. It's fun, easy, and gives you an excuse to wear that tight miniskirt you have shoved in one of your drawers.

Nurse and Patient

If you're more of a nurturer, nurse your husband back to sexual health with the help of this role-play scenario. Plus, you'll have no problem finding a cheap slutty nurse costume on the internet.

Strangers at a Bar

Want to relive the first night you met and potentially even banged it out? Go to a bar and pretend you're meeting each other for the first time. Have one of you try to pick up the other, then when you feel like they did their job, go on back home for some great sex. Not good sex, great sex.

Your Favorite Movie Couple

Have a couple on film (no, not porn) that you consider to be the ultimate relationship? Embody them for your next role-play session to experience what it might be like for them to head on down to bone town together.

Let's Keep the Conversation Going

Have you ever tried role play with your spouse? What advice to you have for married couples who are just now getting into it? Tweet us @womendotcom or message us on Facebook.

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