5 Things You Husband NEEDS You to Know About Sex

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They love it when you initiate.

5 Things You Husband NEEDS You to Know About Sex

We've said it before and we'll say it until we're blue in the face—communication is a vital part of every relationship.

You have to be open and honest with your partner, even if it scares you. Easier said than done though, right?

As much as we advise talking to your significant other about everything, sometimes it can be difficult—especially when it comes to sex.

Even though you or your husband may desperately want something from the other in bed, the odds of it ever being discussed are slim to none. So to help you out, we've rounded up five things your husband wants—nay, needs you to know about sex.

Find out what they are below!

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1. He Loves It When You Initiate

Fun fact: Your husband doesn't want to be the only one initiating sex. He actually really enjoys it more when you're the one kicking things off. As much as you think he wants sex all the time, he doesn't—nor does he want to be the one to make it happen constantly. He wants to feel wanted, too, okay? Allow him that.

2. He Enjoys Cuddling More Than You Think

Most women assume men hate cuddling. It doesn't ever seem to be something of interest to them post-coitus. But plenty of them like it more than you think, especially your husband. It creates more intimacy between the two of you, while strengthening your bond. Sure, it can be annoying at times, so you don't need to do it after every time you have sex, but doing it every so often will bring the two of you closer than ever. So get to cuddling, if you don't do it already!

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3. He Wishes You'd Stop Obsessing Over Your Appearance

No matter how long you've been with someone, getting naked in front of them doesn't get any easier. You have your good days, then you experience times where your confidence is at an all-time low and you'd rather not undress for anyone, even yourself. Guess what? Your husband still loves you and finds you undeniably sexy even on those days you don't. He wishes you'd stop criticizing your appearance, because that's not the reason why he fell for you in the first place. Sure, it drew him in, but he loves you for you and not your physical being. Stop worrying that you don't look sexy enough for him, because you do.

4. He's Open to Change

Having sex in missionary over and over just doesn't cut it for him. Yes, it's easy, but where's the fun in doing it in one position until you're both satisfied? Newsflash: It's not there. Switch things up on him. Don't be afraid to try new things, so long as you're both okay with it. Make sure to get permission first, because you don't want to do anything that he's not down with beforehand. Even though you're married, you still have to ask for consent.

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5. He Hates It When You Fake It

We're big fans of faking it till we make it, except when it comes to orgasms. We never, ever fake it, because we want to be pleased. It took us a long time to get to that point, but we eventually did. Though you may think you fake one pretty well, your husband knows the difference between a real one and you vying for a Best Actress nomination. And let's be frank, he hates when you fake it. Nothing is more of a boner killer than that right there. Tell him what he needs to do to really get you off. He actually gets turned on when you do this.

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