Stop Using Your Child To Be A Hateful Human Being
Parents Use #BoycottTarget To Protest Target’s Inclusive Bathroom Policy
April last year, Target announced a policy allowing transgender people to use whatever restroom corresponds with their gender identity. Needless to say, people were indignant.
The Target Facebook page was flooded with hateful comments, and now the American Family Association called for a boycott of the store because their policy "poses a danger to wives and daughters."
"With all due respect to their unreasonable protests, I call bullshit," said Ashley Austrew, whose article about prejudice and pro-LGBT rights went viral. Her words incited fury on some and empathy from many.
In Ashley's words, "I wrote the original post reporting on Target's inclusive bathroom policy — it generated hundreds of angry comments, as well as a handful of messages sent to me personally. At the center of each was the assertion that I, as a mother, should support discrimination wholeheartedly because it's the only way to protect my kids from thousands of predators who've apparently been waiting with bated breath for this golden opportunity to waltz past the impenetrable forcefield created by "women's restroom" signs."
Her professional Facebook page became room for infuriated and unrequested comments: "As a mother, how in the world could you be in support of transgender bathrooms," "You are now in support of allowing every child molester and rapist in the bathroom with your daughter because he is allowed, all he has to say is that he identifies with women."
Ashley is reluctant on her opinion, the sigh at the door of the bathroom would not stop somebody's bad intentions. "As a mother, there are a lot of ways I could respond to this. I could point out that a paltry restroom sign was never going to prevent a true predator from harming someone in the first place. I could remind everyone how offensive it is to even make the leap from talking about the transgender community to discussing sexual predators in the same sentence."
She also adds that we have been sharing restrooms with a variety of people all along, maybe we never thought about it. "I could even point out that the majority of us have probably shared a restroom with a transgender person at some point and not even known it because they just want to pee."
"If you're truly worried about child sex abuse, then as a responsible parent, it'd behoove you to know that** in three-quarters of sex abuse cases, children are harmed not by pooping strangers, but by members of their own family or someone they know**", says Ashley who remind us that, laws have not eliminated all possibilities of children from being molested since the biggest risks hide in places where kids "feel safe". Since we are all taught to avoid interaction with "strangers", but be less critical to close family friends, neighbors.
Furthermore. Ashley open our eyes to a fact: "while girls carry a one in four chances of being sexually abused before age 18, the risk for boys is one in six. If bathroom predators are truly an issue, why on earth would I be worried about my daughter but not my son?"
Unfortunately, we have to agree that we don't often picture boys as victims in this situation. We propagate the stereotype that girls/young women are unable to defend themselves and that predators "just" target females. It's a myth that can make it harder for boys to speak out on similar cases.
We Are Afraid To Open Our Minds
"The truth is, people aren't worried about their wives or their daughters, about the imaginary boogeyman in the next stall, or protecting the sanctity of their Target bathroom — what they're really afraid of is opening their minds." Ashley pictures this big fear of sharing the bathroom with transgenders might be due to the fact that many people want to limit the chances of any interaction, they don't want to see or hear about "different genders", they don't want to have to accept LGBT rights in general.
"For some, discriminating against people is easier than trying to understand them or having to alter their perspectives in order to afford others the same respect and compassion they'd demand for themselves." Indeed, this topic is very difficult to approach because people always take it too personally. Many are uninformed and prefer to be like that. Like the "good old days", an unknown period of time where all people were born completely satisfied with their gender and role in life, and hormones and neuroscience don't exist. We struggle to accept whatever is new or unfamiliar.
"The idea that we're somehow protecting our children by discriminating against transgender people is abhorrent and a complete load of s#-. Even worse, *it's teaching an entire generation of kids that discrimination is okay as long as you can come up with some really scary lie to justify your own prejudices,**" aded Ashley.
"Children learn by example. Through them, we have the power to either make the world a better, more accepting place or to make it worse. When we teach kids to fear people who don't live like them or to hate what they don't understand, we make it worse."
We are talking about imposing rules to a minority without enough room for discussion. We are the bigger group, we talk louder, how can we call ourselves "the victims". If safety is the "concern" here, we should become strict with criminals, not random people who didn't have "the privilege to be born straight". Do we have statistics to back up this idea that "heterosexuals" are less likely to break the law? Is there a scientific link between transgenders and violence?
We want the sign at the door to block the questions and to impede other equal rights issues to be brought up. We just want to keep living our "normal lives."
"If you're really worried about protecting your kids from the ugliness that exists in this world, stop using them as an excuse to be a hateful human being", ends Ashley.
ASHLEY AUSTREWWrote for Cosmopolitan.com, SheKnows, The Stir, Yahoo Parenting, and more.
THE RESULTS TODAY
Target has decided to expand its use of a third, single-toilet bathroom at all of its stores, which can be locked by users. That bathroom can be used by any customer who needs some privacy, including parents with small children of a different gender or those who are uncomfortable with a public bathroom in which a transgender person is allowed.
Spokeswoman Katie Boylan, "At the end of the day, Target is all about inclusion. We want everyone to feel comfortable in our stores." There are about 1,800 U.S. Target stores, and all but 300 already have the single occupancy bathrooms available. All but about 25 of those stores should have the new bathrooms by the end of the year, and the remaining stores should get them early in 2017, Boylan said.
But boycott leaders, who have collected 1.4 million signatures online, have claimed their efforts to pressure Target is taking a bite out of sales.
"We're confident that our boycott has played a significant role in Target's financial results that came out today," said Walker Wildmon, assistant to the president of the American Family Association, which says it promotes traditional moral values about the boycott.
Wildmon says Target's policy poses a risk to children and women using women's rooms, a charge denied by LGBT advocates. Boycott leaders had urged Target to install the private restrooms at all locations, but they advocated that the store's policy be changed so that transgender customers and employees no longer be allowed into the bathroom and dressing rooms of their choice.
**"This doesn't completely answer our concerns," said Wildmon.
The website money.cnn.com informs that Target was forced to quit the idea of inclusion because the boycott was causing financial decline.
Apparently we are not ready for that. We acknowledge that we are not equal but we just don't want to deal with it right now.
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