We Can't Ignore These Red Flags In Brittany & Patrick Mahomes' Relationship

Patrick Mahomes and Brittany Mahomes are one of the most visible couples in the NFL. The two regularly share sweet life updates on social media and aren't afraid to open up about their relationship in interviews. Brittany is often spotted wearing monochrome looks in support of her husband's team from the stadium sidelines. But while it seems the parents of three are living the high life, there are a few red flags we can't help but notice about their marriage.

One of them is how tough Brittany found her husband's rapid rise to fame when he joined the Kansas City Chiefs in 2017. "I was not prepared for this," she shared during a joint 2023 "CBS Mornings" interview. "At such a young age, we were in love and I loved him with all of my heart but, you know, I didn't expect it to skyrocket this soon and us kind of just be thrown into the fire like this." Their lives changed quickly as they moved to Kansas City and became subject to intense social media scrutiny. It's easy to understand how that could be an issue if the Texas native didn't feel equipped to handle the new normal thrust upon her. But that's not the only potential problem we've spotted in this athletic romance.

It's understandable that Patrick Mahomes' busy schedule can sometimes make him forget about other commitments, but Brittany Mahomes probably wasn't happy to hear he completely blanked on Valentine's Day in 2023. Patrick was asked by NFL if he had any plans for the most romantic day of the year, which was just a week away, and responded, "I didn't even notice it was coming up so... Don't tell [Brittany] I said that but I'll make sure I have some plans now."

Forgetting wouldn't be such a big deal if the couple didn't celebrate, but V-Day has traditionally been special for the Mahomes'. They actually got together on the holiday, with Brittany recalling they were just friends until he made a romantic move in school. "He brought this little Valentine's gift for me at lunch one day. It was a heart-like card and said 'Happy Valentine's Day' and a rose or something. He just brought it to me as a funny joke but it was the cutest thing in the world," she told Vitality in 2020. Patrick continued his tradition of sentimental gifts too, as she told People in 2024, "Patrick bought [our dog] for me for a Valentine's Day gift when I was a junior."

Valentine's Day not being on the athlete's radar once may not be a dealbreaker, but it could be a sign he's not putting as much thought or effort into their relationship as he used to. As Maria Sullivan, dating expert and vice president of Dating.com, explained (via PR Newswire), "Despite changing attitudes towards relationships, anniversaries are still widely recognized as an important time to celebrate love and the relationship ... completely forgetting this important traditional milestone can leave your partner feeling unappreciated and undervalued."

Patrick Mahomes and Brittany Mahomes have vastly different net worths, which could lead to deeper issues in their marriage. According to Celebrity Net Worth, he's amassed a $90 million fortune with a salary of $40 million, while Marca claimed his wife is worth $15 million. "While couples having disparate incomes is not always a problem, in some couples it turns into a power struggle dynamic," Nicole Moore, celebrity relationship expert and host of the "Love Works" podcast, explained while talking us through Blake Lively and Ryan Reynolds' red flags. She also noted, "If Ryan operates as if Blake is fully his equal despite her earning less, then it's a green flag. However, if Blake feels she has to cede power to him because he earns more, it's a red flag."

And the same can be said for this famous couple. Though the Mahomes' haven't publicly shared how they deal with finances, we know the glamorous WAG isn't afraid to spend. Brittany has worn some wildly expensive outfits over the years, which is only okay if she and Patrick are on the same page about money. If they're not, that could be a bad sign as, according to the Institute for Divorce Financial Analysists, money problems contributed to 22% of divorces in the States in 2012.

Being in a relationship with someone in the public eye is tough, and Brittany Mahomes learned that the hard way. Writing on Instagram Stories in 2023, she shared she initially struggled with the female attention Patrick received when he first started playing in the NFL. "It's actually really sad how disrespectful some women are..." she wrote (via E! News). "I did use to have a very hard time and get extremely annoyed," she added. 

If Brittany's emotions get the better of her over when women approached her husband, that could be a red flag. Though jealousy in a relationship can sometimes be healthy, it can also be detrimental. "When [jealousy] leads to constant questioning, distrust, or controlling behavior, there's something far deeper than just a jealousy problem going on," licensed therapist and founder of The Truth Doctor Dr. Courtney Tracy exclusively told us. Thankfully though, it seems Brittany has worked hard on herself, as she admitted in her social media post, "But I am now to a point where I could care less!"

Jealousy isn't the only emotion Brittany has had to deal with, though. During a joint 2023 interview with GQ Sports, Patrick shared his wife struggles to open up when she's upset. "You just get quiet. I'm like, there is something wrong. And then I just walk in and I'm just nervous and I'm like, 'What did I do?'" Giving the silent treatment is rarely helpful in a healthy relationship, though. The influencer shutting down could be a red flag. It suggests she has an avoidant conflict style and Patrick may need to handle fights differently because of her poor conflict resolution skills, which likely makes it harder to resolve and marital issues.

Patrick Mahomes has admitted Brittany Mahomes works incredibly hard at home to ensure he can do his best on the field. "People don't even realize how much she does, taking care of the day-to-day stuff and making it so where I can focus on football, focus on my craft, and everything like that," he said on "Impaulsive" in 2024. "She pushes me to be great and she's done a lot of great things herself," he added.

But that may be a red flag, as his wife has a career of her own in addition to supporting him and his football goals. She's a successful businessperson, personal trainer, and cofounder of the NWSL team the Kansas City Current, and that can be a lot to balance when she's taking on the majority of home work as well. In a 2023 Instagram Stories post, she confirmed they had a nanny and replied to a fan who asked if she experienced mom guilt (via People), "I often feel bad having help with them and not being able to just do it all on my own." But it's important Brittany remembers she isn't a single parent household. Her and Patrick's domestic responsibilities should be as balanced as possible, as one person feeling they're running things singlehandedly can lead to intense resentment, unfulfillment, and burnout.

Brittany Mahomes isn't afraid to share her thoughts on her husband's games — good or bad. She hit headlines in 2021 after she controversially tweeted following a Kansas City Chiefs loss, "Refs are never in our favor." In a since deleted tweet, a fan urged her to not air her grievances on social media, hinting her publicly calling out officials could impact Patrick's career. "Girl. I need you to stop. This was my team long before Patrick was here. It's not giving the [organization] a good look. Chiefs are bigger than you, me or any one player," they wrote (via E! News). But Brittany hit back, "In the nicest way possible...Shut up."

Two years later, Brittany explained on "CBS Mornings" she took a step back after receiving so much criticism for her bold remarks and over the top reactions when she attends games. "I ultimately learned that you don't have to share everything that you do in your life," she said. The problem here though? If Brittany feels she can't be herself on social media and post as she wishes because of her husband's career, that could make her feel stifled or resentful of his celebrity status. "I just wish I could do what I want without getting attacked every week," she even wrote in a since deleted 2022 tweet (via New York Post).