How to Have Sex With My Husband More Often

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How to Have Sex With My Husband More

Ah, sex.

It's a natural part of life and a vital component of any relationship.

But how much is too much and how do you initiate more sex with your partner?

We know that's what you're wondering, as you've made your way into this post, so we'll get right to the point.

Keep scrolling to discover if there's such a thing as too much sex, how often you should be having sex, and ways to initiate more sex with your husband, if that's really what you should be doing!

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How Much Sex Is Too Much Sex?

Is there even such a thing as too much sex? After all, it has been linked to decreasing anxiety and boosting one's mood.

We hate to say it, but there is such a thing as too much sex. Ever heard of sex addiction?

While copious amounts of sex aren't all that bad, if they start interfering in your everyday life, then it's time to stop banging it out so much. When you find yourself skipping meals or even work to stay home and get down with your husband, then you might have a problem.

We can't diagnose you, so if you think you have a sex problem, then you're definitely should consult a doctor.

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How Often Should a Couple Be Having Sex?

Now that you know there is in fact a thing as too much sex, let's get into how often you should be having sex with your partner.

According to a study done by the Kinsey Institute, 30 to 39-year-olds have sex an average of 69 times per year. Nope, we didn't make that up, that's in fact a fact.

But how often should couples be having sex? Most therapists recommend at least once per week. Some recommend twice a week, but the general rule of thumb is once out of the seven days you have to get it on.

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How to Initiate More Sex With Your Husband

Not having sex at least once a week? We're here to help you fix that. Below are a few ways to initiate more sex with your husband:

Schedule It

We believe in scheduling everything—meetings, extracurriculars, date nights, and, yes, even sex. If waiting until the moment's right really isn't doing anything for your sex drive, plan one day a week when you and your husband will get it on. It might feel weird and awkward at first, but eventually it'll feel as natural as ever. Plus, knowing when you're going to have sex will help the both of you get into the mood.

Ask for It

If you really want more sex from your husband, don't beat around the bush and hope he picks up on your hints. The only way you'll get what you want from him is by asking him for it. As we're all well aware, men don't notice the subtle hints us women drop, so you have to be bold and dare to ask him for sex.

See a Counselor

So maybe you've asked for sex already, but your husband isn't down to do it. That's okay, but maybe it's time to see a marriage counselor. We know that sounds intimidating, but plenty of couples do it. If you really want to up how much sex you have, seeing a professional could set you on the right course.

Talk to Your Husband

Along the lines of asking for it, be sure to talk to your husband about their wants and needs. Maybe there's something else going on with them that you don't know about. It's important to make sure you're both on the same page with this before jumping into the sack.

Do Some Research

Once you have a better understanding of what you want and what your husband wants, don't hesitate to do some research. Look up new positions to try, ways to role-play, how to get each other off without penetration, etc. Let your husband in on the fun, too. Show him what you've found and see if he'd be willing to try some new things. Maybe the thing missing from your sex life was a new position or the inclusion of sex toys in the bedroom. You'll never know unless you try!

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